Happiness is like a butterfly;

It’s nobody’s job to make us happy, or create the life we want. We are all responsible for our own happiness. Happiness is always there with us in the moment. Happiness is like a butterflyWe just have to make the shift and choose to see it. Being happy doesn’t come from the things we achieve or how far we’ve come. It comes from being present and enjoying the journey. If we learn to appreciate what we have now while reaching for our dreams, that elusive butterfly might come and sit softly on our shoulder 😉  

Remember to put the glass down…

Do you suffer with stress? Here is some great advice… A psychologist walked around the room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected that they’d be asked the ‘half empty or half full’ question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she enquired ‘how heavy is this glass of water?’ Answers called out ranging from 8 oz to 20 oz. She replied ‘the a absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, i’ll have... Read More »

Today I will live in the moment…

Many people think of the future, and anticipate problems that they might not be able to overcome. They lose sleep, and feel on edge. One way to get out of the worry habit is to heighten your awareness of the present. Things are happening all around you every minute of the day. Why not focus on what is going on now, enjoying the simple fact of being alive and immediate, rather than casting your thoughts forward or backward to events you cannot change? The principle is simple, but the art is more complex. It takes practice, discipline, and above all,... Read More »

Never take someones feelings for granted

Not everyone finds expressing their feelings easy. Everyone at one time or another in their life may find it difficult to say how they feel. It has been found that when we withhold our feelings, it can lead to tension in our muscle groups, neck, back, shoulder, and jaws. So it’s important to identify your feelings so that you are not holding these feelings by tightening your muscle groups. Learning why you have trouble expressing your feelings can go a long way into changing that behaviour. Some reasons why people may find it difficult to express their feelings: * They believe if they... Read More »

We believe what we tell ourselves

Most of our self-talk is reasonable, for example: ‘I’d better prepare for my exam’, or ‘I’m really looking forward to that match’. However, some of our self-talk is negative, unrealistic or self-defeating, such as: I’m know I’m going to fail’, or ‘I didn’t play well! I’m useless’. Learning to dispute negative thoughts may take time and practice, but it’s definitely worth the effort. Once you start looking at it, you’ll be surprised how much of your thinking is inaccurate, exaggerated, or focused on the negatives. A good way to test the accuracy of your perceptions might be to ask yourself some challenging... Read More »

Don’t forget that you are special…

When you love and accept yourself, you don’t need the approval or acceptance of someone else, though it always feels good to have. It can be hard believing in yourself, especially if you feel like you have nothing to offer or are unworthy of things. But you are worthy and you are capable. To make a start in recognising you’re special: * Recognise the skills that you have and the good things about yourself. * Set goals for yourself and meet those goals. * Instead of viewing your failures as failures, view them as learning opportunities. * Another thing you can do, to help yourself believe... Read More »

You’ve always had the power.

To help conquer that feeling of powerlessness, ask yourself: Am I giving away my power to please others, or to try to fit in. Am I telling myself that I don’t count? If you are, remember that you have the right to be treated with respect, to express yourself freely. The right to ask for what you need, and to fight for what you need and want. Most people who have learned powerlessness barely feel entitled to speak, let alone to speak freely. Often professional therapy is necessary to overcome the ingrained patterns. Never the less, to overcome learned powerlessness, you must... Read More »

Are you a people pleaser?

If you’re a “people pleaser,” people are probably always taking advantage of you. You also might not be getting what you want out of life. If you want to change, stop thinking about what would make others happy, and focus on what YOU need. Shift the focus from others to yourself. After all, it can be difficult to improve your own life when you’re busy accommodating others.

How can we get through a rough patch?

Rough or dark patches are part of life, unfortunately. While we can’t choose or control how or when these times will hit, we can control how we cope with them. So how can we get through a rough patch? We can take it one day at a time. Don’t look too far ahead and remember that rough patches end. Also we can practice kindness. If were not kind to ourself, everything is harder. How can we be kind to ourself? It could mean going for a walk, eating right, getting enough sleep, to going to a movie or simply being kind in thought, and... Read More »

Are YOU tired of being told you’re strong?

Coping with everything life throws at you is tough. You feel guilty and inadequate and worry that someday all those plates you’re spinning will come crashing down. If you’re struggling and pretending- be honest. If you’re not coping, admit to yourself that you’re not- this shows great strength. Don’t struggle in silence, talk to people that know and love you. Or Someone that will listen without judgement like a trained counsellor. Strive to be the best that you can be, and be a realist. None of us are perfect, we’re weak sometimes, we make mistakes, and we’re a work in progress. Stop the pretences,... Read More »