However, some of our self-talk is negative, unrealistic or self-defeating, such as: I’m know I’m going to fail’, or ‘I didn’t play well! I’m useless’.
Learning to dispute negative thoughts may take time and practice, but it’s definitely worth the effort. Once you start looking at it, you’ll be surprised how much of your thinking is inaccurate, exaggerated, or focused on the negatives.
A good way to test the accuracy of your perceptions might be to ask yourself some challenging question.
These questions will help you to check out your self-talk to see whether your current view is reasonable. This will also help you discover other ways of thinking about your situation.
Every time you catch yourself thinking something negative, you can challenge yourself.
- What is my evidence for and against my thinking?
- Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
- Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?