We believe what we tell ourselves

Most of our self-talk is reasonable, for example: ‘I’d better prepare for my exam’, or ‘I’m really looking forward to that match’.

However, some of our self-talk is negative, unrealistic or self-defeating, such as: I’m know I’m going to fail’, or ‘I didn’t play well! I’m useless’.

Learning to dispute negative thoughts may take time and practice, but it’s definitely worth the effort. Once you start looking at it, you’ll be surprised how much of your thinking is inaccurate, exaggerated, or focused on the negatives.

A good way to test the accuracy of your perceptions might be to ask yourself some challenging question.


These questions will help you to check out your self-talk to see whether your current view is reasonable. This will also help you discover other ways of thinking about your situation.

Every time you catch yourself thinking something negative, you can challenge yourself.

Ask yourself: